Individuality

I'm not the mother of twins, but I think I understand how they must feel as they try and nurture each child's unique individuality. In some ways, its pretty obvious. In other ways you find yourself (unconsciously) lumping them into similar categories. K-squared is so close in age, its easy to assume they should do the same things, be at the same level, have the same friends, etc. We are getting to an age where they are starting to play on their own, away from me and with their own friends. I always feel a little bad when one goes off to have a playdate while the other has to stay home. But I know it's important to establish their own uniqueness, and to have interests and fun and activities away from the other one. Not to mention I'm assuming other parents aren't too excited about the idea that my children come as a package deal. I want to encourage their own interests and distinctions, while at the same time keeping them close to each other. I think there's a happy medium there... and the best part about all this individuality is the one-on-one time I get to spend with each of them. Priceless.